Let’s be clear. I cannot fix your anxiety for you and neither can anyone else. In the same way that a personal trainer can show you which weights to lift, it’s you who has to pick them up off the floor. Nobody else can do it for you.
You could say that it’s a journey that you go on. Remember though, it’s not something that you have to undertake alone. I’ve been on this journey with many people and understand the terrain.
May I be honest with you? It may not always be an easy ride.
This is going to challenge you, and you will have to dig deep. There will be days when it feels like plain sailing and days when it feels impossible and you’ll be tempted to give up.
I won’t let you.
The alternative to undertaking this journey is to continue to live with the same experiences that you have now, because for most people anxiety does not go away by itself.
The good news.
On this journey you will find, or build, a strength and inner resolve that is perhaps greater than you currently know about yourself.
Think of a major achievement in your life. A goal that you set and subsequently made happen. I would guess that there were challenges along the way that you could never have planned for. What happened? You figured it out and you grew to fit the challenge. You probably found that what you learned from the experience, and the person who you became, has been useful to in other areas of life too.
You’ve probably been though this cycle several times. Apply the same process to overcoming anxiety and success becomes inevitable.
I don’t claim to have ready made answers. There is no magic pill and no single piece of advice that I can give you that will make this go away. If it were that simple I would write a book and be done with it. Your anxiety is as unique as you are and the process to overcoming it must be bespoke too.
I’ve been around the block a few times with this. I was my own first client. After having to leave a successful career due to high anxiety and almost constant panic attacks, my first job was to sort out my own life.
Since then, and over the last decade, I’ve helped many other people to understand and overcome their challenges too. It is never about me giving you the answer. It’s about you and I figuring out the answer together.