My Approach To Anxiety
The symptoms and causes of anxiety are as unique as you are. Personal and professional experience has taught me that trying to apply a cookie-cutter solution without finding and removing the cause is just a short-term fix.
If you’re looking for a way just to reduce the symptoms of anxiety then that outcome is as valid as any other and there are plenty of people who will offer you that. Sometimes, for some people it’s enough.
It’s not what I do, it’s not how I work, and I don’t want to waste your time by pretending otherwise.
If we were to work together our number 1 objective is to find the unique set of circumstances that has caused whatever you’re experiencing. Once we have done that, we will figure out what needs to happen in order for you to implement a lasting solution. Of course, as we go we will reduce the symptoms as quickly as possible.
What that means is that I don’t have any ready-made solutions and anything that we do together will be bespoke.
What I do have is the kinds of questions that need to be asked in order for us to work together to figure out how to beat this.
The first question will be what’s it that you’re experiencing and what is it like? For a lot of people that is a difficult question to answer. Perhaps they haven’t thought about it in that level of detail or maybe they don’t have the words to describe it. It’s very easy, and I think even human nature, to put labels on things. A very convenient, a very obvious, label is anxiety. But that tells us nothing, it doesn’t tell us what you’re experiencing so it’s really important that we get below the surface and take the labels away and we find out exactly what is happening for you. We can only start to implement a solution once we have done that.
Being honest with you, some people find in the beginning that the process can be difficult. I think in part that is because it can entail sharing personal information with a relative stranger.
People tell me that my best asset is that I’m a great listener. I seem to have this knack of making people feel that they can open up to me.
I think, in part, that’s because my number 1 value is to protect your confidentiality and I’ll do whatever it takes to make that happen. That seems to build up a level of trust with people. On top of that whatever you tell me, whatever you choose to share with me I will not judge you. I may not agree with what you say but I will accept you for who you are and do everything in my power as a human being to help another human being.
Working in this way is more like starting a project than going for therapy. This is project you.
At the top of every page of this website I promise and guaranteeing your confidentiality and I do that in several ways
First of all, there are the common-sense and legal requirements, things like keeping notes to a minimum and password protecting them. On top of that I will never call you unless it’s been pre-arranged.
I’ll respond if you text or email me, but I won’t initiate the contact.
I you ask me to email you something, I don’t have an email signature and if I need to write anything that might be sensitive then I’ll put it in a password protected document.
I’m not trying to convince you that my approach is the only one. I’m especially not trying to convince you that it’s the right approach because there is no ‘right approach.’ The only question is, could this be the right approach for you?
If what I say makes sense to you and you thin k that this could be a way forward for you then give me a call and let’s start a conversationReturn